The quest for perfection
10/10/2023 ● Sandra Ruiz Mello
Image by Stefan Keller for Pixabay
To always strive for perfection is to believe that if we are and do everything perfectly we will be more fulfilled creating in us the feeling that error has no room and that there will always be a solution to everything, thus generating a great expectation of happiness.
It's logical that when we carry out a task at work we have to give our best and thus do our best, but we have to bear in mind that mistakes happen and it's normal for this to happen, what makes us evolve is to take advantage of mistakes and try again, now with more emotional maturity, because we're human, we're not and won't ever be perfect.
Many studies around the world point to certain elements between the relationship between normal and beyond normal when it comes to people who think they are perfectionists. These studies often come up against pathologies:
- anxiety
- depression
- eating disorders
- compulsiveness
When we demand too much of ourselves or others to have perfect standards, we seek a certain pleasure in perfection.
And what are the types of perfectionists?
- Self-oriented - people who are extremely demanding of themselves, because they demand perfection in their own actions.
- Other-oriented - these are people who seek perfection from the other, demanding that the other be perfect in everything. It occurs a lot in work relationships, family and friends.
We are living in a time when a person's image often has to be perfect, an example of which is the standard of beauty, which is increasingly rigid, even causing an impact of stress and anxiety, which can greatly affect an individual's health.
Perfectionists need to know that this exaggerated behavior in which they demand too much of themselves and others isn't healthy and that at some point in their lives the bill will come due.
If you are or know someone with higher than normal standards, try to treat this disorder by going to a qualified professional and take care of yourself, do your best and believe that your life will be healthy and happy, because nothing in this world is perfect.
TO THINK ABOUT
" Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. "
Albert Einstein
" Do not wait for a crisis to discover what is important in your life. "
Plato
" Lord, grant that I may always desire more than I can accomplish." "
Michelangelo
" What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything? "
Vincent Van Gogh
" Nature is wont to hide herself. "
Heraclitus
" It's a very sobering feeling to be up in space and realize that one's safety factor was determined by the lowest bidder on a government contract. "
Neil Armstrong
" I cannot persuade myself that a beneficent and omnipotent God would have designedly created parasitic wasps with the express intention of their feeding within the living bodies of caterpillars. "
Charles Darwin
" I am fundamentally an optimist. Whether that comes from nature or nurture, I cannot say. Part of being optimistic is keeping one's head pointed toward the sun, one's feet moving forward. "
Nelson Mandela
" The universe is a pretty big place. If it's just us, seems like an awful waste of space. "
Carl Sagan
" Herb is the healing of a nation, alcohol is the destruction. "
Bob Marley
