Surely you or someone you know has already had the experience of knowing that they are talking about you or someone else.

But what is gossip?

When a person has certain information, which can be false or true, about someone's life without the person's knowledge or permission and spreads it to others, this news is called gossip.

Gossip can occur in various places, such as in the family, in relationships with friends, in the workplace, etc.

The gossip has the need to talk about other people's lives and forgets to look after his own. He finds it much more interesting to know what other people are doing or living in order to tell others.

Generally, those who talk about other people's lives reveal a lot about their character, their personality, they want to draw attention to themselves and think they are very important.

Gossip often generates intrigue, speculation and also aggressive situations for those who don't have the patience to put up with people talking about their lives, especially if the information is false.

There are people who feel saddened by gossip about them, which takes an emotional toll.

Those who talk about other people's lives forget to look after their own, suffer from low self-esteem and have a great need to attract attention, because they use gossip to attract the curiosity of others and thus feel important.

Gossip usually reflects the prejudices and values that the gossip has inside.

Is Gossip Healthy?

No. But if there is no intention to harm the other, if the information is shared with the person involved, which can happen, for example, in meetings with friends, where they talk about facts that occur between them on a daily basis; at work when you also hear different situations in which it is very common for people to comment, but understand that talking about the other or situations with the other should not hurt or embarrass them.

The important and healthy thing is to take care of our lives and look for ways to achieve our goals and evolve as a person.

Here are some tips on how to deal with gossip in a positive way:

• If you are experiencing rumors of gossip, find out where the gossip originated and who spread it, if possible contact the person and tell them about it, reveal your dissatisfaction with the facts and ask them to stop talking about your life; but if they refuse to stop talking about your life or even refuse to talk, then stay away from them, ignoring them is the best solution.
• If it happens that in a meeting with friends, at work, in the family, someone comes up and talks about other people's lives, commenting on situations suffered by other people who are not there, show the gossip how harmful what he is doing is, try to change the subject or get away from the situation.
• Always try to encourage collective respect, never help to spread malicious comments, if it is not to add positively, ignore it is necessary.

Respect and self-love are of the utmost importance in our lives, but respect for others is fundamental.